Why we need Dildology

When I started this blog about a year ago, I didn’t know the differences between materials. I believed that all dildos, vibrators, cock rings and so on were created equal! Oh  how every wrong I was, I even remember one of the toys that I had first reviewed and said I loved to death was the Gumdrop Anal plug. Made from a material  called Crystalessence, sounds classy right like it would be safe? It’s really just another name for PVC and Rubber which is about one step up from Jelly. It looked like jelly and it had this sickening sweet chemical smell that never quite went away.  But because of the name I didn’t think anything badly of it, why name it something that sounds good…when its bad? Oh how wrong I was, they said its non-porous that’s a lie. Before I tossed it out during my move, it still reeked of the bacon lube I tested on it. Which was month…MONTHS after and many a washing. I wish I still had this toy to show you how horrid it looks after a year, the shine to it had gotten very cloudy with lord knows what and it was just a mess! I seriously regret ever putting it in my butt!

Those where the days where I was such a sweet summer child about my sex toys as many tend to be when they start to dip their toes into. I just wanted to get the toys I could and get them for cheap as I was on a bit of a budget then. But I learned, I read great articles about how toxic these toys are and watched videos discussing it! Below are just a few but seriously do a Google search sometime for Toxic Sex toys and you will get everything from blog articles to Reddit discussions!

• Ever thought about the toxins in your sex toys?
• Toxins in your Sex Toys
• The Ethics of Sex Toys

These are toys that we are using in our most sensitive of parts, made with materials that we wouldn’t allow children to use. So what are we to do? The best testing we have had so far is things like ‘the smell test’ or ‘the flame test’ and while sniffing all of your toys or burning them is easy. You would think that companies would test the materials themselves. But they don’t, it’s not cost-effective to find out that a toy that is costing you little to make but a lot to sell is unsafe.

That’s where Dildology comes in, like sex toy ninja’s in the night! (okay maybe not but it sounded cool…)

What is Dildology you may ask?

Dildology is a non-profit group run by three fantastic bloggers (Dangerous Lilly, Crista Anne and X. Valentine Orenda) that the majority of the donations that are received go towards testing products so that we really find out what the toys out there have in them! So that the information we get comes from is reliable, and comes from a source that is unbiased and unaffiliated. The remainder will be spent on fundraising merchandise and incentives, and equipment for experiments and the development of educational resources. Donations are their sole means of getting toys tested for everyone.

There is a perfect quote from their press release that really sums up the heart of this all.

“In an industry that is largely unregulated, consumers have been relying on the manufacturers to disclose the materials used in any given sex toy,” says blogger Dangerous Lilly, the organization’s marketing director. “But the fact is no governing body requires full disclosure, or even any ounce of truth. We think it’s about time consumers have reliable information on the toys they’re using so intimately with their bodies.”

Which is why they are holding a fundraiser now, with bloggers just like myself talking about the project and why it is so important to support it.

But how do you donate?

Well by clicking this little button below or going straight to the main page of Dildology.

There are some fantastic things for donating to help fund these projects such as Donations of $15 or more will receive a 15% off code for SheVibe.com  or 10% off a LoveHoney UK order (for those who donate from the UK). There are also many things depending on your level of donation, but every bit helps.

Currently they are looking to raise $1,500 dollars, which will allow them to test about 3 to 5 items depending on their material. What toy have they currently got their eyes set on?  The James Deen Realistic dildo from Doc Johnson, which is made from PVC and ‘Sil-a-Gel’ so it going to be interesting to see what is in that one I think!

And don’t just take it from me, this whole month bloggers like myself and others are writing about how important this is. Check out the big main post for the Blog Carnival by clicking on the banner below!

Toy With Me Tuesday: Garden Fairies

Look who I found playing in my flowers!

TMI Tuesday: Navigating Sex

1. Answer Yes or No:
I Regret My First Kiss

• No. My first kiss is a little strange but I don’t regret it. It was with a boy whose name I never got. We met at this Mickey Mouse’ birthday thing that my parents sent me to so they could have some alone time. We snuck away and kissed in a phone booth of all things. 

I Miss My First Love

• Yes and no. My first love was also my first boyfriend and best friend. I miss him only because we are now so far away but I do not miss him as in I want to get back together with him. He is now happily married and has two great kids. I am so very happy for him.

I Married My First Love

• Obviously from the answer above this is a no and I am not married yet myself either.

I Loved Someone That Didn’t Love Me

• Yes. I have always had a bad habit in my youth of falling for people who didn’t like me the same way.

2. Do you consider yourself monogamous or polyamorous or some other category which you will explain or define for us now?

• I have been trying to figure this out for a long time now about myself, I am still not very sure. I can be a very jealous person when it comes to who I am with but at the same time I feel like I need more freedom myself to keep myself open to love. It is something I am currently exploring about myself at depth.

3. Your partner is in the mood for sex and you are tired – what do you do?
a. Start snoring. There is no way I’m giving it up tonight.
b. Trade. You give me a massage… and we will see…
c. That would never happen!

• I am rarely never not in the mood for sex. It is normally the other way around, I can be tired as hell but still want to mess around.

4. Does your partner mind if you masturbate, in bed, when they are there?

• My most recent partner didn’t mind it, and he often enjoyed it when I did because he could help a little even when he was tired.

5. Describe your typical sexual romp:
a. You are playful and tame
b. You have occasionally introduced a few things like outfits and toys
c. You love trying new things and shocking your partner

• Normally with my partners I am the more adventurous one and going ‘oh lets try this’ or ‘this sounds interesting’ so I am always up to try anything once…more if it really rocks my socks.

Bonus: What was your best masturbation experience. Why was it the best? Describe.

All of mine tend to be very good, but my best had to be when I paired my Fairy Wand and my Pure Wand together after a very frustrating day. I always have the best masturbation experiences when I am angry or frustrated. Letting out all of the emotion that I have so much bottled up inside of me, letting it all out.

Contest: Thrones of Desire and Carrie’s Story

 

A few weeks back I got a chance to review both Thrones of Desire and Carrie’s Story which were sent to me from Cleis Press! In honor of not only my blogs birthday, but of Masturbation Month as well I am giving away both books to you my readers! I have your standard entries but each one will have two special entries for those of you who have blogs of your own!

Thrones of Desire: Let your imagination soar, I am looking for erotic tales set in fantasy worlds. Think Game of Thrones but with much less death and no one ever being happy in Westeros.

Carrie’s Story: BDSM erotica is the name of the game here, whatever your kink may be, write it!

For both be sure to share you link with me so I can add it to this post!

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Wicked Wednesday: Yes or No?

She laid in bed, the quiet stillness of her bedroom enveloped in darkness. The moon creating just enough light to keep her from sleeping as she tossed and turned. She knew what would help her sleep, but he was away for the night and she knew the rules. She did not need permission to play with herself, but she did need permission to cum. Fumbling in the dark she reached for the phone and texted him. Hoping that he would see it even though it was late.

As she waited she could already feel her body craving the chance, it had not been long but she was the type to crave it often. He always told her that her fire burned brighter than others did, that is why he had to temper it. Soon she felt the familiar vibration and it made her smile.

‘You can start playing. But you may not cum until I send another text telling you yes or no.’

Letting out a sigh, she did as told, figuring he wanted to play as well with her a little. His mind games where some of the best, she never knew how long it would be so she let her mind start to drift to an erotic story she had read earlier that evening,when she knew she should have been working. She pictured a tall sturdy man with dark hair and light eyes approaching her as she sat alone on a beach. She imagined the breeze blowing softly through her hair, her body slimmer than it actually was in real life, clothed in a thin but revealing short dress, and the deafening roar of the thunderous waves crashing in front of her on the shoreline. Lying on top of the sheets, as she glimpsed him in the corner of her mind, her hand slowly eased its way down below the waist of her panties. She started rubbing the hair of her pubic area, playing with it, as her mind kept drifting further.

In the darkness her hand further probed into her female mound, rubbing her pleasure’s center as her mind played out the scenes of him quietly coming and kneeling before her. His blue eyes blazing with passion and want as he reached out to caress her cheek; how he leaned forward and pressed her gently backward until she was lying down on the sand under him. She conjured up imagery of him forcing his tongue hungrily into her mouth, tasting the tears of loneliness on her lips. Sucking her bottom lip between his teeth until it was swollen and pulsing.

Her thighs under the sheets parted slowly as her thumb rubbed her clit and her two fingers penetrated her depths. God how she yearned to be touched; how she needed to be touched. Her tears sprung forth again as her midnight daydream played on. Her man of mystery placing a hand on her breast as his mouth explored her neck, alternating between long sensuous licks and erotic slow nibbles.

She felt herself grow moist both in and out of the dream. Felt his hot breath as he made his way down betwixt her cleavage. Burying his face totally in the midst of her heaving bosom, his tongue tracing her valley until the neckline of her dress presented an obstacle. He slowly pulled up her short dress and eased her out of it, laying her back again on the ground. He stopped for a moment, gazing at her now naked body with raw primal hunger, before diving back down taking her left nipple and part of her huge areola into his mouth, fiercely sucking on it. His left hand wildly and insistently kneaded her right breast while his right hand eased between her lower back and the sand, clutching her to him. She moaned in pleasure. His mouth feeding on her hungrily; his hand squeezing her so tightly. She wanted to be devoured by him. Her hands were all over him in response; in his hair, on his neck, on his back, and pulling him ever tighter to her as she lay there breathless.

As he continued to mouth her, his hand behind her back slid down and separated the cheeks of her ass. She moaned as she realized where he was headed and let out a small gasp as she felt his finger probe her deeply. He slid his finger gently in and out as he slowly pulled away from her chest. He smiled at her coyly as he then adjusted himself so he could slide down the length of her body and eased her legs further apart. She watched in awe as he looked at her down there hungrily and as he put his face within inches of what made her a woman. He took a deep breath appreciating the aroma of her arousal and then slowly started showering her with soft kisses on her inner thigh before working his way back up to her pussy. He kissed her outer lips before spreading her to kiss deeper within. His tongue traced every nook and cranny, sampling all the delights she contained there. He moaned into her sending waves of warmth and pleasure coursing through her body.

His hand was still working her ass as he probed her depths with his tongue…licking, sucking, flicking, nibbling. Her hands pressed his face into her. She did not want to smother him but it was so hard concentrating on that. She wrapped her legs around him resting them on his back while he laid on his stomach feasting on her womanhood. She started to tremble as she felt ecstasy approaching.

In the bed in the silence in the dark, her legs were trembling as she felt her orgasm building. Her arm was getting sore and muscles tight as she stroked herself with ferocity. But in her mind she saw him pull away and smile devilishly and say, “Not yet my love. You will not cum without me in you, feeling your flames engulf me.”

He eased up enough to slide down the jeans he was wearing exposing his erection that would make any average man envious, and then forcefully drove himself into her soaking and awaiting sheath. She groaned loud as he impaled her; partly pain, but mostly pleasure. She wrapped her legs around his waist as he leaned down over her, thrusting powerfully into her, her back grinding into the grains of sand chafing her. But she did not care because her mind could only focus on how tightly he filled her. Waves of electricity that shot through her as he rammed against her cervix. He was grunting and putting all the strength he had into each slam.

By now in bed her arm was on fire. She was rubbing so hard feeling her climax building and building and building, she had almost lost track of listening for her phone till it went off against her head. She scrambled to pick it up with one hand. Swiping her finger across the screen. Reading his words.

‘No. Not till I get home. See you in the morning.’

She let out a groan as her fingers stopped, her body certainly not sated, but relaxed. Pulling her down to sleep knowing that she would rest well, because in the back of her mind she knew she would need it in the morning.

TMI Tuesday: Masturbation Month 2013

1. My favorite place to masturbate is ________ ?

That is one of two places for me, either of course in bed cause that is just comfortable or I have taken quite a liking to the jet tub I now have access to where I am living. Just bubbly joy!

2. Have you ever masturbated in public? What were the circumstances?

I have quite a few times, normally the have been things that have spontaneously happened while talking on the phone with people who I was in a relationship at the time. I have done it on a train car, outside in a park and outside in my backyard. I find it to be exciting to be honest especially in those situations where I could have gotten caught. 

3. Do you like mutual masturbation? Why?

I really do like mutual masturbation, its listening and hearing the other person while you are both going at it that gets me going. Knowing that I can look over and watch or vice versa, which is always something that makes my head spin. My favorite is when my partner does it while standing watching me on the bed, watching their movements change as they watch me getting closer to my orgasm. 

4. When was the last time you masturbated?

This afternoon. Which led to a very nice nap, I call it napsterbating. 

5. Have you ever masturbated on camera?

I have quite a few times, mostly while being on the cam site I am working on. 

6. Do you like to watch people masturbate?

Yes I do, I love watching people though for me it’s mostly watching faces. I love seeing the changes in someone’s face when they are masturbating. 

Bonus: Have you filmed yourself masturbating? Care to share that film via a link?

I haven’t filmed it yet, but who knows when I do maybe I will be sneaky and change this answer to a link.