Sale: Tantus Labor Day Sale

LabordayThis Labor Day weekend, Tantus want so  to celebrate the work you do so why not treat yourself just a little bit this weekend!

Use code WORKIT at checkout to receive a 15% discount on all Closeout items. A great discount on Limited Edition Items (Alumina!), as well as soaps and lotions! So it is certainly one to check out!

 

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Sale: Tantus Hot August Nights

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Tantus has been having amazing sales the past few months! August is no slouch either!

Not only if you spent 100 or more, do you get a free Tantus Vibrating Harness but your shipping is FREE. This counts for both residential US and International! Plus the more you spend, the more freebies you get with your order.

Been wanting to get a harness but haven’t been sure? What a better way to get it then for free while picking up a toy or two you want, a nifty grab bag item for cheap, or heck even some of the essentials as well (lube anyone? Gotta keep that well stocked!) When it comes to what Tantus offers its not hard to rack up that much in some great products. Plus a perfect time to perhaps pick up any gifts or items you want to grab for the holidays!

This sale is running at Tantus through all of August so don’t delay! If you have any questions or want a recommendation as for what to get shoot me a question via my ask box! I am happy to answer!

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Issues and Tips for Brand New Dominants

I wish I could find a reason for this, perhaps its the sudden influx of a certain book’s (now movie) influence. That or I am just starting to notice it, but the amount of men and women both who suddenly believe they are or can be dominant is crushingly overwhelming. Now don’t get me wrong, I am in no way saying that people cannot find their way through the BDSM lifestyle because they have found interest in it. The thing I am having an issue with is these ‘Doms’ that haven’t picked up on certain etiquette yet. The main one being…

Just because a someone identifies as submissive, doesn’t mean that she will/has to in any way shape or form be submissive to you just because you identify as dominant.

Sure you can strike up a negotiation by all means, open lines of communication to perhaps see if the two of you work out. But it still comes down to their choice. Trying to dominate them them outside of what has been talked about or negotiated, is amazingly disrespectful in my opinion. You have no idea what that persons soft or hard limits might be, you have no idea if they have someone they could be connected with already or my favorite you have no idea if that is the kind of relationship that they want specifically with YOU.

By now, I am sure this sounds like a rant or just to vent with no end in sight. But honestly, I want to help so here are a few tips.

  1. Boundaries both mental and/or physical, should/must be respected.
  2. Submission is something that must be earned, not demanded. There is a level of trust and respect that comes with it.
  3. Don’t assume. Just because someone is submissive does not give you the right to play with them.  They are also not in any way required to address you as Sir, Master, Daddy, Mistress, or anything of that nature until you negotiate that with them.
  4. If someone hasn’t acknowledged you as their dominant, don’t do it yourself.
  5. 50 Shades of Grey is a fictional BDSM novel, it is fantasy. Don’t base your knowledge from any kind of BDSM fiction.

6-3-SE-0121That last one is key in my opinion. There are some great books out there for new dominant as well as even those who have been around for a while. One of my favorites that even as a submissive read is The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (they also have one on Bottoming as well.). I highly suggest picking them up and any other how to book and reading up! The more knowledge you have as a dominant past what you have read in fiction the better of a dominant you can be for the submissive that you have. Plus from what I can tell, I have always noticed that a well read dominant is considered rather sexy to many a submissive, so it really is a perk when you think about it!

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TMI Tuesday: Sexy Times

1. You walk into a party full of friends. One of them suddenly and quickly strips down naked. Which area of your naked friend’s body do you check out first?

Okay to be totally fair when it comes to answering this question, it would depend on which friend it was that suddenly decided to strip down. There are ones who I wouldn’t even sneak a peek at for respect of their significant others whom are also my friend and likely as this party. Though on most of my friends whom I know, it would likely be their behind, cause I have a thing for good-looking butts. 

2. Have you ever masturbated in bed when a platonic friend or relative was sleeping in the same room or bed?

I have though I won’t say what relative or friend could have been in the room. 

3. When was the first time you had a nocturnal orgasm aka a wet dream?
(Yes women have wet dreams read more…)

Some time in my teen years I would have to say, these days they are few and far between. Though I have been having them recently when my thoughts right before bed are very charged. 

4. Have you ever been caught naked by someone?

As someone who grew up in the theater, has had a large family and lived with many roommates. Yes I have. 

5. Think of your dearest friend, do you think they are sexy? Why or why not?

Well I mean, I dated my dearest friend for almost 3 years. So yeah I would say so. 

6. If you had no choice, how many days do you think you could abstain from sex including masturbation?

If I had no choice. Hell that is hard, I could go…maybe a week before I started to really want it, but would then just push myself another week to prove that I could handle it.

Bonus: What gets you wet faster, phone sex or sexting?

Sexting. Because for me its hot to know they are taking the time to write-up what is coming to their mind. Plus some phone sex that I have had has been blah because they have just kinda not done/said anything while it seems I do all the work.

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Sex Toy Blogger Problems: Internet Comments

There are many sex toy blogger problems that float around, we have all had them from the simple things of not having charged a toy that we want to use to having so many toys to compare but not enough time! Though recently one happened to me that was not enough to fit on the 140 characters that twitter gives me.

My roommate was watching Anime on a random website for such things, when stopped what he was playing to talk to me in the kitchen.

Him: You have to hear this comment.
Me: Okay…
Him: “One time I was swimming in a pond full of dildos and one slipped up my butt.”
Me: ….

I wanted to laugh. Which I did after the look of sheer dumbfounded WTfuckery left my face. But then I paused because I suddenly had ALL the questions. Which where as followed…

If this was a pond, was it natural or man-made? Well clearly it has to be man-made, right? Because natural would maybe suggest another source of water and that would mean there was a dildo river or lake some where, right? Lazy river of dildos and blow up dolls or something? But wait, if this was a pond full of dildos what kind? I mean if it was jelly that is just gross, I mean what the hell is in the water because of that? Wouldn’t they degrade over time in the sun and water? What about silicone or other materials, I mean based on that depending on how full it was if you jumped in wouldn’t you have a Scrooge McDuck moment and just break something on the density of the dildos? As for one slipping into someone…how would that even work? Water is hardly lubricating enough, does that mean that it was filled with lube as well?

As you can read, nothing good really can come from this train of logic. My roommate certainly enjoyed my almost 10 minutes of ranting. Curled up on the couch laughing as I bounced from one thing to the next, dissecting the sentence it seemed down to every detail. But internet comments like this are dangerous to a sex toy bloggers brain I tell you.

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Review: Pop Tops Deluxe Silicone G-spotter

Having reviewed the Magic Wand Original not too long ago, I mused in there that of course the wand certainly has options for attachments to add to the head. The Pop Tops Deluxe Silicone G-spotter from Pleasure Works is just one of those attachments and which was sent to me from Good Vibrations in return for this honest review.

The premise of this that you slip it over the head of the Magic Wand and then you can use the wand internally on your G-spot or anally to stimulate your prostate. The G-spotter attachment itself is 100% silicone which makes it non-porous and body-safe.

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While it is made of silicone it is not stiff, but still firm. You are able to easily with the help of some lube slip it inside of you, but it does have enough bend and squish to it so that it really accommodates many body types. The pronounced curve and flat tip easily finds your G-spot while the a nub on the rim of the attachment also easily gives you clitoral stimulation as well. I was a little worried from the start that the curve would not be enough as I am plus sized and have a bit more around that area, but the flexibility really helped in that area.

Because this is made of a slightly glossy silicone, it does need the use of water based lubrication. As well as giving it a wipe down before use if you are in a place that gets a lot of dust or cat hair, because it is quite the magnet.

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Insertable Length: 5″

Insertable Diameter: 1 3/8″

So how does it do?

There is no doubt that I love my Magic Wand, regardless of the noise that it makes when I can pull it out to play with I bring myself to some amazing orgasms. So when I got my hands on the G-spotter Attachment I was too excited. The idea of having such intense internal vibrations was had me on pins and needles to have some time alone with out the roommates home.

The second I did, I was not at all disappointed. The silicone of the attachment transfers the vibrations so well, with hardly any dampening or having trouble in actually finding my G-spot. The flexibility of the toys arm makes it easy to bend and move it during use to what you need. Which for my G-Spot was just what I needed compared to more stiff g-spotting toys. Then there is the nub on the attachment, now this might not seem like a big thing. But I have never been big on toys that are supposed to have any kind of dual stimulation. It just does not seem to work for how my build is. I just have too much to work around or it just does not seem to line up. Well let me tell you what, because of the flexibility of the internal part of the attachment this part hit my clit just how it needed to be. I don’t know if I can go back to using my magic wand without it. Seriously 10/10, A+, will use for awesome screaming orgasms again!

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Now the only downside I found, was using it for anal. The arm of the g-spotter was just a little too bendable to be able to get it to stay still long enough to get into me. I have always tended to need something far firmer for anal or a partner instead to guide it in. But thankfully it is safe enough to use anally, so if you are able and enjoy it, I say go for it!

Overall, I loved the Pop Tops Deluxe G-spotter attachment, it really transforms a normal Magic Wand into something more. So if you are a fan of powerful internal vibrations I suggest picking one up!

You can get it of course at Good Vibes here, along with the Magic Wand Original if you do not have it already.

Pop Top Deluxe G-Spotter provided in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Thank you again Good Vibes!

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