Kink of the Week: In a Pinch

Pinching. I had to think about this if it was a kink of mine.

I rather like having my ass pinched, though mostly in the respect of someone who I like doing it in a way to show appreciation for how they feel about my ass. Something about someone I like doing that makes me smile and blush rather happily. It sends a tiny jolt through me and is great for getting me started.

Then of course, there is the amazing feeling from someone or myself pinching my nipples. That always seems to make my knees go weak. Feeling them under my fingers growing harder as I pinch and roll them, maybe even pulling a little. My nipples have always been sensitive as hell so it comes as no surprise that it is something that I love done to me. Though then I thought about it more, and while I love fingers pinching, toys pinching them becomes too much. I am not sure if it is because of pressure or due to the amount of skin that they are pinching, but it tends to be a red flag for me.

Then there is one other place that I have found that, when pinched has a strange effect on me, my tongue. This one was found out from one too many times of sticking out my tongue at people, who then would playfully grab my tongue to counter act my sass. The act of them doing that has this counter effect of sending me rather quickly to a submissive head space. I think it is because it draw my attention to them, to pay attention to only them and not be distracted.

Pinch me anywhere else, especially my cheeks though and you are bound to get those fingers/hand bit very quickly. Sends me through the roof because she would do that every so often to make a point about her words so it makes me twitch.

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Blogging, Reviewing and Depression

I know that I haven’t posted much here save for things that have prompts along with a few reviews that have seemed to take me forever over the course of the last few months. Winter did a number on my depression along with a lot of personal things that I very much allowed to drag me down. I am only now looking at it from a different perspective as I am pulling myself out of he hole I seemed to dig for myself.

Wanting to write about anything sexual is hard when you aren’t feeling sexy, that was the first lesson I learned. For the last few months during the big holidays (Christmas, New Years, Valentines Day) I was drastically lonely. I didn’t feel attractive or even like a person that anyone would want to be around. Let alone think of in a sexual manner, so it started to work its way into my imagination. I couldn’t think about erotic things with out the sudden though of ‘yeah that would be great, but it’s not like anyone would ever do that to you’. I see or hear my roommates flirting, and it made me grow green with envy that I had not felt in a long while. I just wanted to be kissed, to feel a spark for a moment that I was missing so very much.

Eventually it was sapping into my reviews, I had trouble pulling out my toys as I couldn’t even begin to feel up to playing with them. Not that I didn’t, I would eventually wrangle them and my porn out. But my mind began to wander during use, not thinking about the toy but thinking about how it wasn’t what I really wanted at that moment. Rushing myself because I wasn’t sure when a roommate who didn’t understand that a closed-door meant to knock was actually a thing. That it didn’t matter the things I needed to do because I didn’t matter. Thinking about how I needed something more that I didn’t deserve now. Well, feel like I didn’t deserve in my head.

It wasn’t until recently that I even realized what was causing it, that I was letting so much effect me that wasn’t even in my control. That I was letting other people and their drama pull me down to make me feel worthless. That I was focusing on everything negative and once again not taking time for myself to make the one person who matters in my life feel better. Now that the sun is out I am taking advantage of it and going outside. Now that it’s not freezing in my bedroom, I am getting back on to cam and enjoying the job that I do adore quite a bit. Now that I have my room to myself because my aforementioned roommate moved out, I can take my time with my toys and not rush things. Get back to the things that matter to me, myself and I.

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Crystal Minx Faux Tail Giveaway at Bedroom Bondage


So it is safe to say I have lusted after these tails from Crystal Delights for some time now, lucky for me (or maybe you) Bedroom Bondage is having quick give away for one of these beauties! Now these are of course the faux fur ones so they are totally vegan friendly, which I know that I am a fan of. Good luck!

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TMI Tuesday: Emotional Emotions

This week’s TMI Tuesday deals with emotions.

“The emotions aren’t always immediately subject to reason,
but they are always immediately subject to action” Quote from philosopher-psychologist William James

Laughter: What makes you laugh?
A lot of things make me laugh. A good joke, a funny movie, silly animal videos, and even tickling me. Though that last part can also get you tickled back and or punched depending on who you are.
Anger: This past week, who or what really pissed you off? What happened?
This past week, only some stuff with people who I considered friends who have gone behind my back and out of their way to try to bad mouth me. 
Fear: What phobia did you have but overcame?
None sadly. I have quite a few, but I haven’t over come any of them.
Surprise: Recently, what unexpected act or behavior did you experience in your sex life?
Well recently my sex life has been a lot of masturbation, which is not that bad but my fantasies have recently surprised me. I have been thinking a lot about very rough and very violent sex, like full on hate sex. 
Trust: Many on-going relationships have a certain predictability about them. Does that certainty translate into trust?
In a way I would say that it does, but at the same time I am the type where predictable starts to irk me slowly for some reason. I like to make sure that things still have surprises because if you start to fall into a rut then people sometimes have the chance of looking for something to pull them out of it. Not always with the one they are with. 

Excitement: Who do you excite?
Well I am sure that I excite those that follow me on cam quite a bit as well as those that I have been with in the past or are currently with. 

Bonus: What intimate activity do you share with your partner, something that is meaningful to your relationship? For example Sunday breakfast in bed, cooking, maintenance spanking, etc.

For me, its something very simple. Like going to be early and just cuddling or taking time away from things to watch a movie together. Though one of my favorites is baking, I love baking with my partner. 

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HedoVibes Round Up #33

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Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition start with the guidelines, then use the submission form.

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Review: Lust by Jopen L6

So when I see the words waterproof silicone rechargeable G-spot vibrator, I have to say that it raises my curiosity. So when Early to Bed asked if someone could review it, I was quick to raise my hand. I felt rather lucky to be sent it in exchange for a fair and honest review.

Upon getting it, I opened it up I was first shocked by the pink. On the sight it just seemed like a very matte bright pink but in person it was like a shocking neon pink. Even before I could use it, I of course knew I needed to charge it up. Which is where I ran into my first big problem. I couldn’t for the life of me FIND how to charge it. It just said…its in the bottom.

Goes in the middle, just right through it. That's easy to tell from this right?

Goes in the middle, just right through it. That’s easy to tell from this right?

As you can see, its not very clear save for a small divot in the bottom that really doesn’t look like it has a hole in the first place. But after some serious trial and error, I found you seriously just push it right into the bottom. Some how the bottom of it when your remove it stays water tight. It is interesting to say the least but I wish that the booklet had made it a little clearer. Though as it charged while connected to my lap top my roommates and internet friends who I shared it with had some great comments about it. Though my favorite quote was from The Boy after he saw a picture of it on my Instagram.

“That is the most feminine toy I have ever seen. It looks like a woman raising her hands to the gods thanking them for her orgasm.”

So once it was charged, I was finally able to test it out. There are 10 different settings, of course your normal high, med and low. But then you get into the different pulsations and patterns which can be fun. Though I find that I only really need the first three speeds. Also even though I could feel the vibrations in the handle it was not enough that it left my hand numb or buzzy after use. The buttons where easy to use having one-off button and then the on button which cycled through the different settings. I found that the petals where great for outer stimulation along the labia and clitoris the vibrations going through them. At the lower levels it was a nice slow tease but when I set it higher it was just the right amount of vibration to get me off. So I had high expectations for it for when I tested insertion.

Flexibility of 'petals'

Flexibility of ‘petals’

Sadly those were smashed quickly. Even with lube the two petal sides bow and slip around so they don’t really go in. When you push them apart its hard to hold them down so you can get the middle section in. Which when I finally did…it did not work with my anatomy. As a plus size woman I had just a bit too much cushion as it where, so the petals did nothing and the curved part hardly reached my g-spot to be of any use. It was disappointing honestly. For a slimmer girl this I am sure would work a lot better. I gave it one last attempt in the bath and shower one night to test the waterproof abilities, which holds up nicely. The vibrations don’t dampen much when underwater.

So for a toy that is made of high-grade silicone, is water proof and chargeable via USB cord I sadly did not really love. For outer and clitoral stimulation its great, but in the end it didn’t live up to what it was supposed to do for me.  This is the first toy from any of Jopen’s lines, so there is part of me that was really hoping it would live up to what I have heard about some of their toys from other reviewers. Hopefully it will work for others.

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Thank you again to Early to Bed for the chance to review this toy in exchange for my review. While they are not currently carrying this item, check them out for great toys and other awesome adult products online or at their store in Chicago.

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