TMI Tuesday: Pet Names

1. Do you give pet names to anything? (e.g. Significant other. Car. Breasts. Penis. Vagina.)

I have been known to in the past when I am really attached to a person, or their bits. I have also been known to give pet names to inanimate objects like my laptop, phone and other things. 

2. Is there a pet name that you can’t stand being called?

I have never been to fond of babe. Not sure why, its just never sat well with me. 

3. Has your body ever done something that you didn’t understand? Even if it was a ‘first time’ something happened?

Only thing I can think of is when one of my eyes will just start twitching oddly, no reason for it. The muscles will just start to have a strange spasm. 

4. Which body part do you spend the most time on? (grooming, applying, etc.)

I think that would be my eyes, hair and lips. 

5. The name of the best lover you’ve ever had.

Out of all of them, it would have to be the one that I have named here as The Boy. 

6. Have you ever taken an ex back?

I have not. 

Bonus: What’s your biggest concern in the world today?

My biggest concern right now is myself, and learning to love myself day by day. 

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Review: Tantus Plunge Paddle

2014-09-04 18.22.31I tried to think of something creative to say to introduce the Tantus Plunge Paddle, but after about the 10th try I decided that this toy didn’t need it. Why? Because after looking around, there is not much out there that is like this two(three?)-in-one toy from Tantus Inc, that they sent me in exchange for this review.

Now, my love for both dildos and paddles have been well documented by this blog I would say. That and my unabashed love for Tantus. So the Plunge Paddle, was like adding my Nutella, chocolate and Peanut Butter all to one delicious cupcake of awesome. Not only are you able to use the Plunge as a very stingy paddle perfect for impact play. But the handle can also be used as a dildo that can be used both vaginally and anally. The bulb on the end making it perfect for g-spot or prostate stimulation!

Now before I break all of those down, first some of the basics about the toy. 6″ of the Plunge Paddle’s total 13″ in length is the insert-able handle, which is 1.25″ in diameter. The flat of the paddle is 7″ long, 3.25″ wide, and .25″ thick. The silicone itself, is super flexible I can take the paddle section and bend it all the way down to the handle. For a paddle this I swear adds that extra perfect sting unlike stiffer paddles.

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That being said, this is not in any way a toy that I would recommend for those just getting into impact play or unless you are seriously into pain to start with before using another paddle/hand to warm up with. The paddle gives a serious slappy sting when you start to build up momentum going hit after hit. This will leave your skin that perfect bright warm red in seconds and even on me left a few bruises which is rare! I found it was best used as a good toy to use with a few moments of rest in between each impact with the skin rather than one right after the other. Though everyone is different when it comes to handling their pain, so be safe and use your own knowledge of what you or your partner can handle.

2014-09-04 18.22.58Now let’s get down to the part of this paddle that gives it its name, the handle! Now it is not a hidden fact that I love the way Tantus makes their dildos, using it as such was not something that I really preferred. While the bulbed head was really great for G-spotting, and the length where perfect. It was a nice warm up for me to move on to other toys that where thicker. Holding on to it for me was another manner, the best way I could get a good handle on it left the paddle part flapping slightly and would hit me in the ass or thigh. Which was nice when I was craving a bit of pain, but for just a quick masturbation session not something I would want every time. Now this might not be the case when playing with a partner, but as I am doing my playing alone these days I was not able to test that.

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Now comes down to a manner of cleaning. Being that it is made of silicone it is easily cleaned. Soap and Hot water, watered down bleach solution, toy cleaner, boiling, or tossing it in the top part of the dish washer all of it works. Though I found that with all of these you have to take extra special care of the hole in the bulb at the end. I have seen a few ways of cleaning this from taking a q-tip to it and pushing a cloth through on a chopstick. My way was actually getting a clean mascara brush that I have started to use for cleaning toys with nooks and crannies in. It makes sure to get any lingering lube or bodily fluids scrubbed right out.

Over all, as a Paddle I adored taking the Plunge but as a dildo it fell short for me. I may have to check out the Sport Dildo that Tantus now makes which is very much like the handle of the Plunge and give it a try!

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What has been going on with me?

I just thought I would give a little heads up as to what is going down in my life as of late! I am trying to be more personal here on this blog so it doesn’t seem like endless reviews or memes. Normally I might jump to doing others that show my face with pictures and the like but it is not something I have felt comfortable doing lately. Which is odd because I still do cam, but there is something about having my picture out there for longer then I know of and others saving it that has made me feel a little off. So instead I am going to try to write more here about my personal dealings with sex and sexuality that I deal with. Or things I have been wanting to get my own feelings out on when it comes to things going on in the world.

I know that my reviews have been a little few and far between lately, I have been trying to write here and there things that aren’t necessarily reviews. But with life things have gotten a bit bogged down once more in my review pool, though I have quite a few queued up at this point so they will be rolling out slowly one after the other.

Though that isn’t the only thing that has kept my attention else where, I am actually writing fiction again. Outside of my random jaunts with NaNoWriMo (which I am doing again this year) and little blurbs. I have actually been working on submissions to send to publishers! Mostly working with people who are looking for pieces with anthologies but also working on things that I might end up selling myself either on sites that take short stories as they are or something like Amazon. I still plan to post things about them her and there on here, but I will likely be making a side journal for all my fictional writing  under the name I plan to publish with. So keep an eye out for that as I am sure I will share it here with people.

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Sale: Tantus Labor Day Sale

LabordayThis Labor Day weekend, Tantus want so  to celebrate the work you do so why not treat yourself just a little bit this weekend!

Use code WORKIT at checkout to receive a 15% discount on all Closeout items. A great discount on Limited Edition Items (Alumina!), as well as soaps and lotions! So it is certainly one to check out!


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Sale: Tantus Hot August Nights

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Tantus has been having amazing sales the past few months! August is no slouch either!

Not only if you spent 100 or more, do you get a free Tantus Vibrating Harness but your shipping is FREE. This counts for both residential US and International! Plus the more you spend, the more freebies you get with your order.

Been wanting to get a harness but haven’t been sure? What a better way to get it then for free while picking up a toy or two you want, a nifty grab bag item for cheap, or heck even some of the essentials as well (lube anyone? Gotta keep that well stocked!) When it comes to what Tantus offers its not hard to rack up that much in some great products. Plus a perfect time to perhaps pick up any gifts or items you want to grab for the holidays!

This sale is running at Tantus through all of August so don’t delay! If you have any questions or want a recommendation as for what to get shoot me a question via my ask box! I am happy to answer!

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Issues and Tips for Brand New Dominants

I wish I could find a reason for this, perhaps its the sudden influx of a certain book’s (now movie) influence. That or I am just starting to notice it, but the amount of men and women both who suddenly believe they are or can be dominant is crushingly overwhelming. Now don’t get me wrong, I am in no way saying that people cannot find their way through the BDSM lifestyle because they have found interest in it. The thing I am having an issue with is these ‘Doms’ that haven’t picked up on certain etiquette yet. The main one being…

Just because a someone identifies as submissive, doesn’t mean that she will/has to in any way shape or form be submissive to you just because you identify as dominant.

Sure you can strike up a negotiation by all means, open lines of communication to perhaps see if the two of you work out. But it still comes down to their choice. Trying to dominate them them outside of what has been talked about or negotiated, is amazingly disrespectful in my opinion. You have no idea what that persons soft or hard limits might be, you have no idea if they have someone they could be connected with already or my favorite you have no idea if that is the kind of relationship that they want specifically with YOU.

By now, I am sure this sounds like a rant or just to vent with no end in sight. But honestly, I want to help so here are a few tips.

  1. Boundaries both mental and/or physical, should/must be respected.
  2. Submission is something that must be earned, not demanded. There is a level of trust and respect that comes with it.
  3. Don’t assume. Just because someone is submissive does not give you the right to play with them.  They are also not in any way required to address you as Sir, Master, Daddy, Mistress, or anything of that nature until you negotiate that with them.
  4. If someone hasn’t acknowledged you as their dominant, don’t do it yourself.
  5. 50 Shades of Grey is a fictional BDSM novel, it is fantasy. Don’t base your knowledge from any kind of BDSM fiction.

6-3-SE-0121That last one is key in my opinion. There are some great books out there for new dominant as well as even those who have been around for a while. One of my favorites that even as a submissive read is The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (they also have one on Bottoming as well.). I highly suggest picking them up and any other how to book and reading up! The more knowledge you have as a dominant past what you have read in fiction the better of a dominant you can be for the submissive that you have. Plus from what I can tell, I have always noticed that a well read dominant is considered rather sexy to many a submissive, so it really is a perk when you think about it!

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