Tantus’ 18th Birthday!

Tantus Birthday

Yes! Happy Birthday to Tantus who turns 18 this month having been around since 1997!  Now I myself have only known about Tantus for about 8 of those years, but since discovering them I have not looked back!

I remember my first Tantus Toy which was my favorite Tantus Curve which is still one of my favorites to play with to this day! But many have entered my life that have reached up to join it such as my Goddess Handle and Splish. I have amassed quite the collection at this point and I am likely going to keep adding to it! I moved on from dildos recently to enjoy the fun of their plugs like the Ryder and their paddles as well! I think the only things I haven’t tried at this point is their Harnesses, and Feeldos! But they are certainly on my sex toy bucket list!

But enough of my gushing over Tantus! Well maybe not as all this month they are giving for their birthday a FREE GIFT with the purchase of 2 toys! They only thing that doesn’t apply are their Grab Bag toys, other brand items that they sell and sales items! Oh and they have flat  rate shipping for International shipping now!

flat rate shipping

So once again, Happy Birthday Tantus! The next big one is 21 and I cannot wait to see what they come up with then!

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Thoughts While Writing Erotica

So lately I have been writing a lot more, well not here which I am sorry for but it has been fiction writing that I have done! I am starting to publish my short erotic stories on of all places Amazon! Sure the market for that kind of thing is pretty saturated, but honestly if people like Chuck Tingle can do it. I know I sure as hell can too!

Though I have found in the last few weeks of writing that there are always a few thoughts that have popped into my mind.

Wait…how does this position work?

Often time when writing, I find myself trying to be creative when writing out the sex scenes between my characters. While I do of course stick to the very traditional positions sometimes even I need to change things up. Which leads me to trying to visualize a certain position or how two people’s bodies will fit together during sex. It has even led me to attempt to at least figure out just how comfortable it is by at least putting myself one half of he positions at time! Which I will say looks a little silly but does help with the writing process.

I really need to find a better word for ______.

Sometimes, I can only use the word cock, breasts, pussy or what not so much! I have tried to be creative with it, with out devolving to using overly flowery terms like ‘his turgid member’ or ‘her budding sex’. Mostly because I know as a reader, when I come across things like that I am giggling more than I am ever able to be aroused by the words. I have found some good ways to write it that still keeps with my style, but damn sometimes I just wish we had more words!

Well that didn’t go where I thought it was going to! 

When I write, I just let the characters kind of flow which can be a little…interesting at times. I have had scenes where I had meant for them to be rather rough and kinky turn into slow and romantic. As well as a vice versa situation a few times! I have had a few scenes in which suddenly I am not writing for just 2 characters, but 3 as suddenly I have added another body to the mix somewhere before hand. Even so much as throwing in a kink or other thing that I didn’t think I was going to use but totally works for the scene/story.

Whelp, I didn’t know I was into that! <insert more research>

I am hardly very vanilla in my kinks, but every so often something pops into my head while I am writing and suddenly I find myself very into that idea. Not just for my writing but for myself. Which leads me to a good amount of research about what I am suddenly wanting in real life it is even a thing or it is just pure fantasy that I should perhaps just continue to enjoy on page. Which leads into my last thought that pops up way to often for me…

Dammit. Horny now. 

I don’t know if its like this for other writers, but because I also really love reading erotica to get myself in the mood. Writing it also has that effect, most of the time I find that after I write I have to do something or I am going to be frustrated for the rest of the day, until I do something about it. Which can be really great but I have found can also be a little annoying because sometimes while my brain is up for it the body is not.

So yes, lots of writing and much reading lately! Going to get some new reviews of books up that I have finished as well as a toy I was behind on! Keep an eye out guys!

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Kink of the Week: Teardrops

This subject for kink of the week had me thinking quite a bit.

When it comes to crying, I wouldn’t say that it is a personal turn on for me. I have been with guys who it has been a turn on for, and they have certainly done what they can to bring me to those tears that they liked so much. I have asked why it turns them on, but I have never gotten much save for the simple answer of ‘it just does’.

The only time, tears really mean anything to me on a personal level is when I am being spanked, flogged or whipped. With the pain that I enjoy there are times, when the tears they bubble up and burst through. Never in sobbing heaves, but they will simply just start to pour down my cheeks.

It is the type of tears for me that makes it okay, they are not tears of fear or sadness. They are just tears of release, like a pressure valve being loosened just enough in me that gives them the ability to come out. Because I have stopped the thinking that is holding them back and just allowed myself to feel. There have been times I have wanted to ask someone to bring me to those tears, but I have never quite had the drive to do it. Mostly due to thinking that they might think less of me for wanting it. For needing to get to that point to feel better. So for me it comes often when I least expect it.

In the end, when I have cried, I always feel just the same as if I had gotten a really good orgasm. Like weight has been lifted off of me in many ways, light and ready to focus on so many other tasks that are far more important then the things that had been weighing me down. I gave that dam a chance to break and I am better for it.


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TMI Tuesday: Winter Chills

It has been awhile since I did anything with TMI Tuesday, so lets see if I can’t get back into the swing of things!


1. Where you live what is the current season?

Winter, bone chilling, snow on the ground, the air hurts my face winter. 

2. Do you measure/report the weather temperature in Celsius or Fahrenheit?


3. Describe your ideal day of weather?

4. When it is cold outside I want to:
a. Run outside naked because it is exhilarating.
b. Bundle up in warm clothes and take a winter walk.
c. Turn the heat up, stay indoors, hibernate until warm weather returns.
d. I do not pay attention to the weather.

I am such a homebody during the winter it is not even funny, half the time it is far too cold out there to function. So I would rather stay home with a warm cup of tea, books and other things to keep me from going stir crazy. 

5. Do you go “commando” in cold weather or in winter?

Lately, I have been doing that. Not in skirts because well I just do not often wear them during winter. But being bundled up in a few layers of pants I just seem to forget that panties are a thing. 

6. For 10,000 USD Would you rather ride a bike for one mile (1.6 km) in 7 degrees  F/ 14 degrees C weather  or jump naked into a freezing cold Alaskan lake in winter?

Right now, totally. So long as someone was at the end waiting for me with a blanket and hot drink!

7. What is your favorite piece of winter clothing?

Scarfs, I have become a bit obsessed with them as of late. 

8. Have you ever worn Long Johns aka long underwear or thermal underwear?

I think I may have when I was a child, but since being an adult I have not.

Bonus: Do you have more or less sex in the winter months vs. other times of year?

I believe that I tend to have more sex during the winter, it is my favorite activity to warm me and the person I am with up. 

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Kink of the Week: Give me That Look

Getting back into the swing of things with Kink of the Week, and this week is certainly something that gets me weak in the everything.

The Look.

Now, to be fair. Not everyone can get that reaction from attempting to give that look that can make me snap my mouth shut, look down and away or just stop me in my tracks. But when someone knows just how to give the right tilt of the head and the weight behind the eyes that you can feel, it just does something too me. It triggers this reaction that is just deep inside of me and makes me feel small, but at the same time almost safe. That sends a shiver down my spine without even being touched and if done just right, could send me right to my knees. It just triggers my submissive nature like no other, just that look and no words. Because it lets my mind wander to just what could come from that look depending on what I am doing. It could be I am about to get something I will enjoy or I am about to certainly pay for being a brat.

It gets me in trouble sometimes, because there are people who I swear don’t know when they do it. That they don’t get that they are sending that reaction to my brain that I have to hide. That I have to keep them from seeing my cheeks flaring up bright red or how badly I want to bite my lip.

But then there are those that I trust, the people who know me, the ones who use it with all the good behind it. Who know for that moment, its sending a small rush through my body and releasing those relaxing endorphin that leak out when my submissive side gets to come out and play. Even when it cannot go further than that, its something that reminds me and keeps me in that place I love so much. It’s also that perfect tease at times that keeps me squirming until they are able to get their hands on me later.

The look, so simple but perfect, and such a needed kink in my life.

Kink of the Week

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Long Time No Post

So, things have been a little stressful again in my life. But I am going to be catching up here slowly but surely. Keep an eye out for posts as well as some changes to the layout! But I mostly wanted to let people know that I am still alive here!

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